You Can’t Sit with Us
by Antwyone Ingram
Gay people, leave it to you when I’m having a gloomy day to bring some
light into my life with your snarky remarks, and shady antics. As we all
know, it is Gay Pride Month and equality reigns supreme, yada yada yada.
While that’s peachy and lovely (nonchalantly waving rainbow flag while
typing), let’s be realistic - you’re pretty damn shady. If equality means
equally shady, then I totally get it. If it doesn’t, someone help me out
Gay people are always the first to “boo-hoo” when someone heterosexual
discriminates against them and are ready to throw lawsuits, call the press,
glitter bomb and whine about inequality. We’re fighting for equality in the
“straight world” and that’s great, I’m all for it. But who is going to take
the lead in fighting for equality in our own community? Hypocritical is the
understatement of the year. How can you have such a strong voice when it
comes to being treated equally about your rights but you won’t even glance
in another gay man’s direction because he is not your type or he isn’t a
carbon copy of yourself. The gay community is so divided, so it always
baffles me when I see some gay people demanding equality. Stereotypes play a
key role. Gay men hate when heterosexuals stereotype them but do it almost
as excessively as straight people do.
The gay social scene has turned into a big game of “you can’t sit with us.”
The bears sit at the bear’s table, hairy and angry. The jocks sit at the
jocks table, not speaking because they are tools and don’t know how. The
black people sit at the black table, eating chicken and planning a robbery.
The circuit queens are licking bath salts off of their table. And the twinks
are chewing bubblegum and applying mascara. As ridiculous as some of these
stereotypes sound, there are gay men who legitimately view other gay men as
stated above. The gay social scene reminds me so much of high school, and
everyone is too content with these “social rules” that have been laid out by
(blink blink) beats me.
Do a little bit of soul searching during Pride month and think about all of
those who paved the way so we could do the things we are able to do now,
because I’m pretty sure Harvey Milk wasn’t fighting for equality for only
certain types of gays.